This is my Holiday gift for all of you in a sexless marriage. First, do not panic. It can't get any worse. If you want to try to change things, you need to try new things. Next, determine if there is a medical problem that may prevent either you or your spouse from enjoying sex. Chronic illness or the side effects of certain medications may be the culprit. It is also possible that age related sex problems have occurred. Sometimes, it is not a problem, it is just an incompatibility in sex drives. If you suspect any of the above, seek medical help.
2. If it is not a medical problem, consider counseling. Lack of trust, unresolved anger, jealousy, and/or resentment are all possible causes of lack of intimacy. A couples therapist may help uncover the root of the problems.
3. Try to learn you partners desires and needs both in and outside of the bedroom. Guys, if Mamma's not happy, no one in the household will be. If a partner is withholding sex to gain an upper hand in the relationship, therapy is strongly recommended.
4. Improve your communication skills. Women need to feel the intimacy outside of the bedroom before they will provide physical intimacy in the bedroom.
Give it a try folks. It beats a vicious divorce!
