Jessie Jackson Jr. to Resolve His Divorce Outside of the Public Eye? ~by ViperAdvocate

Civil Rights advocate Jesse Jackson Jr. is apparently going through a divorce in Chicago.  Fortunately, former Rep. Jesse Jackson Jr. and Sandi Jackson agreed to try to mediate the dispute.  If successful, mediation may deprive the public of a sensational trial.  In the absence of mediation being successful, there is a chance there may be evidence of extramarital affairs perhaps on the part of both parties. Mediation may allow a confidential resolution of all of the issues including custody of the couple’s two children, alimony and the distribution of property.

Jackson has been paying Sandi Jackson $1,200-a-month in alimony.  While mediation can be a good thing, it may deprive the public of some real entertainment.   divorce case .

Post Divorce Suggestions

I have authored a new article posted on Legal Pub. It can be found at http://legalpublication.blogspot.com/

In essence, if you want to gain control of your life you need to learn to conquer your hostility directed at your ex. If you continue to get angry reacting to your ex's words or actions, then you perpetuate the empowerment of your ex. You only become free when your ex can no longer ruin your day. Read the article and think about it.

Trouble In California Paradise?

Trouble in California paradise? In 1986, Maria Shriver, and Arnold Schwarzenegger lawfully wed. Now 25 years later they have apparently parted ways. The former Governor is a hardcore Republican while Maria was part of the Kennedy clan. A joint statement read that after "a time of great personal and professional transition for each of us," the couple decided to separate. However, behind the scenes it is known that Maria moved out of the couple's L.A. mansion months ago. Maria apparently has been unhappy in her marriage for years. Allegedly, Arnold's ego is often out of control ego.

The couples problems are not all that different from average folks. Arnold's drive to return to his career (as an actor) has apparently left Maria feeling distant and their relationship "unstable." Despite the unhappiness, Maria apparently lingered in the relationship because of her religious views which look with disfavor upon divorce. Let's hope they make the best decision for themselves and their families.

Update 5-19-11: Apparently Arnold fathered a 13 year old son with the housekeeper. Given the child's smile, one suspects Shriver has had a strong indices of suspicion for many years. Attorney Laura Wasser is apparently advising Shriver.

Lashandra Armstrong Is Reminiscent of Susan Smith Tragedy

Legal Pub out scooped me again! http://legalpublication.blogspot.com/ The Lashandra Armstrong case is reminiscent of the Susan Smith tragedy. Both can be rationalized as being the result of "postpartum syndrome." But both are also a good example of why domestic relationships are so potentially volatile. It is not just men who commit violence. It is not just a war of men against women as some feminists have theorized. It is a real problem that needs a solution because the system is broke for everyone other than perhaps the divorce lawyers. The laws and presumption dealing with family law need to be revised for the better. Having the most aggressive attorneys is not always a good thing. Fear of losing everything can result in irrational behavior. But as long as there are strong financial interests in keeping the status quo, it is unlikely that significant change will be effectuated any time soon. Nevertheless, the small voices in the distance calling for reform grow louder each day.

Guest Article On Prince's Legal Fees

As a guest on Legal Pub, I wrote an article on Prince's legal fees. It seemed appropriate because Prince's dispute with his lawyer involves fees incurred in the process of representing the singer in several legal matters including "divorce." While I don't know know Prince or the lawyers involved, I can imagine it is not pleasant no matter which side you are on in a fee dispute.

If you thought divorce was vicious and nasty, just imagine two hungry alley cats fighting over a can of tuna. Then magnify that a couple of times and you may my idea of what a fee dispute with a divorce lawyer might look like before all is said and done. For those interested: http://legalpublication.blogspot.com/2011/03/prince-with-legal-fee-dispute-by-viper.html

Christina Aguilera Calls It Quits After Five Years Of Bliss?

Divorce is common, especially in Hollywood. So it was no real surprise when Christina Aguilera announced she was divorcing her husband of five years. Her husband, music executive Jordan Bratman, will likely take the divorce like a man, sans the pain in his wallet experienced by the "typical man."

PEOPLE, published the reasons why Christina sought the divorce. In essence, it is the same old she believes it will benefit her family in the end. "Things were so unhealthy and unhappy for both Jordan and me, I knew I had to end it." said Aguilera. And what about their two-year-old son, Max? "When you're unhappy in your marriage, your children are the ones who suffer," she says. "That's the last thing I wanted for my son." Come on Christina, can't you come up with a more original line? This is text book 101 reason to explain why you are divorcing.

Why not share the real reason for the split or come right out and deny the speculation that you are involved with Matthew Rutler? Divorce is bitter sweet and some times vicious. While dissolution of marriage stimulates the legal economy, for once it would be refreshing for someone to come out publicly as to the real reason that they are seeking a dissolution.

Alcohol Won't Help Save A Marriage

Alcohol consumption won't save a marriage. Unfortunately, when times get tough, the tough get going... out to the bars. If there was any hope in saving the relationship before the drinking, it soon evaporates in a drunken fog.

Legal Pub has an article on Four Loko, a super charged alcohol drink popular among young adults. LINK. It is worth your time to review the article. If your kids are binge drinking, get them help. If you are drinking and driving or simply drinking too much, get help for your self.

Keep in mind, "married men don't live longer, it just seems that way... "

that is really true if it's a bad marriage.

Think Men or Women Get Screwed In Divorce?

Difficult question. A lot truly does depend upon the jurisdiction that the parties are in and the quality of legal services rendered. I would be remiss to point out that the mood of the judge and plain old luck have a lot to do with client satisfaction. For "Helen's" read on the matter visit this LINK.

Let me know what you all think.

John and Kate Should Be Penalized For Their Selfishness

No, I am not representing either John or Kate. But I would like to represent the rest of the eight because I think the kid's Hollywood parents are doing them a disservice. But maybe hitting Kate in the pocket book is a right start to getting retribution. By now practically everyone on the planet knows that Jon and Kate Gosselin's marriage has self-destructed. However; not everyone realizes that the brand Kate has built is under attack. clothing line.

While Healthtex and her latest book, Love in the Mix: Making Meals into Memories, are on hold, the divorce is proceeding onwards. Let's hope that America dumps this couple and they return to their old boring lives. Harsh, yes. In the best interest of their kids, I think so...

Michael Jackson Kids

What will happen to Michael Jackson's kids. If it is true that Jackson is not the biological father of the children, does he have standing to say where the kids go after his death?

Well, the paternal mother gave up her rights. Jackson died with his name on the children's birth certificates. The short answer is that whether Jackson is the paternal father or not should not make any difference. But keep in mind, this is California.

Does Bruce Pardo's Violence Illustrate The Need To Change the Family Law System

Is the divorce system broke as Legal Pub suggestsin the Bruce Pardo violence story? http://legalpublication.blogspot.com/2008/12/bruce-jeffrey-pardo-dressed-as-santa.html

Would Legal Pub's suggestion to reduce domestic violence work? http://legalpublication.blogspot.com/2008/01/legal-pubs-proposal-to-reduce-post.html


I welcome your comments. If indeed the system is broke, then let's work to change the system in the appropriate manner.

Viper

Viper's Suggestions For Improving A Sexless Marriage

This is my Holiday gift for all of you in a sexless marriage. First, do not panic. It can't get any worse. If you want to try to change things, you need to try new things. Next, determine if there is a medical problem that may prevent either you or your spouse from enjoying sex. Chronic illness or the side effects of certain medications may be the culprit. It is also possible that age related sex problems have occurred. Sometimes, it is not a problem, it is just an incompatibility in sex drives. If you suspect any of the above, seek medical help.

2. If it is not a medical problem, consider counseling. Lack of trust, unresolved anger, jealousy, and/or resentment are all possible causes of lack of intimacy. A couples therapist may help uncover the root of the problems.

3. Try to learn you partners desires and needs both in and outside of the bedroom. Guys, if Mamma's not happy, no one in the household will be. If a partner is withholding sex to gain an upper hand in the relationship, therapy is strongly recommended.

4. Improve your communication skills. Women need to feel the intimacy outside of the bedroom before they will provide physical intimacy in the bedroom.

Give it a try folks. It beats a vicious divorce!

New Site For Parents of Childeren Dealing With Divorce Issues

Here is a tool for parents of children who are products of a divorce. It is an interactive site created by a South Bend, Indiana lawyer. Let me know what you think of it.


http://www.uptoparents.org/

Joel Brodsky Is Featured On Legal Pub

I am not a big fan of Drew Peterson. I do however, think he should get a fair trial. Drew was about to embark on a nasty divorce when his wife disappeared. No one knows what happened to Stacy or if they do, they have not revealed their information. Legal Pub has an exclusive interview with Drew Peterson's attorney. I found the interview informative and while I still am not a Drew Peterson fan, I tip my hat to his attorney for his zeolous representation. I am convinced that Joel Brodsky thinks Mr. Peterson is being treated unfairly. I can't say that I disagree. Legal Pub hits the mark, Peterson is innocent until proven guilty.

YouTube, A New Arrow In the Quiver of Divorce Litigants?

YouTube was recently used by Tricia Walsh-Smith to explain her side of her divorce with Phillip Smith (of Broadway.) Legal Pub has a story up with a quote from me. To watch the video see the link below:

Legal Pub

Tricia Video

Guys, Hell knows no furry like the wrath of a scorned women.

Robin Williams Wife Files For Divorce

Well, Legal Pub beat me to it. LINK

But a serious question needs to be asked: Has Robin Williams become a victim of the Prozac enraged women who in general are mad as hell and just aren't going to take it any more?Or is his estranged spouse an entrepreneur who wants to cash in on her half of the wealth?

Perhaps the answer is neither. But the divorce practice is thriving and as the number of divorces grow, so do the wallets of those practicing family law! That little piece of paper called a marriage license is funding alot of legal retirement plans....

So I Sold Out...

So I sold out. I went for the big exposure and published on Legal Pub. I could regurgitate my advice for men on selecting a mate here, but why not just give the LINK. The temptation to have 1000 or more men read the advice as oppose to a hundred was just too great.

I do think Paul Dobranski has something to offer men in the way of advice. For my female clients and readers, yes the advice may be sexist but keep in mind it is intended to be read by men only. I promise I will do something only for women on this site.

-Viper

Legal Pub Hits the Mark On Improving Custody and Child Support

Outstanding new idea to reduce domestic violence by improving the divorce system. Definitely worth the read! LINK HERE

In essence, Legal Pub advocates changing the way custody and visitation are awarded. He advocates true joint parenting and shared responsibility. Instead of paying child support, both parents pay into a fund with one of the parents administering the fund.

I like it! I think it would work.

Divorce Would Have Been A Safer Option For Julie Jensen and Mark Jensen

Julie Jensen wanted authorities to investigate her spouse if anything happened to her, according to a letter read to jurors Monday during opening statements. (Her husband is being tried for her murder.) Mark Jensen, 48, is charged with first-degree murder in the death of his wife who was found dead of poisoning in 1998 in Pleasant Prairie, Wisconsin.

"I pray that I am wrong and nothing happens, but I am suspicious of Mark's suspicious behaviors and fear for my early demise," Julie Jensen said in the letter read by Special Prosecutor Robert Jambois. (She had told a neighbor to share the letter if anything happened to her. Mark Jensen was charged with first-degree murder in 2002, but the trial has been delayed until now. The defense claims that the 40-year-old woman was depressed and and poisoned herself to frame her cheating husband.

Jambois claims Jensen failed to take his wife to a hospital, even though she was sick for three days before she died. Julie Jensen also told police, a neighbor and a teacher that she thought her husband was trying to kill her. Recent changes in Wisconsin's Evidentiary Rules have apparently made such evidence admissible.

Jensen allegedly poisoned his wife with ethylene glycol (antifreeze) so that he could be with a girlfriend. (She is now his new wife.) Judge Bruce E. Schroeder has not yet decided if taped jail phone conversations between Jensen and his current wife will come into evidence.

Divorce would have been so much cheaper...

Is it Possible to Have a Successful Divorce?

Is it possible to have a successful divorce? Women can have such a divorce according to Christina Rowe, author of Seven Secrets to a Successful Divorce. Christina recently appeared with her children on The Morning Show with Mike and Juliet. Christina was apparently involved in a bitter divorce for almost two years and it negatively affected her children.

Christina says “I was completely unprepared during my divorce; I never imagined my divorce could turn so ugly. Unfortunately my kids were caught in the middle and it has had a negative impact on them. I wanted to share my experience with other people so that they could learn from what my family has gone through and not make the same mistakes.”

Two of Christina's children have chosen not to speak to their father anymore. Her children were confused and did not understand why a divorce was necessary. Being torn between parents left them angry and sad.

Since the divorce, Christina has been on a quest to teach women how to survive divorce and have a favorable outcome.

Christina’s book, Seven Secrets to a Successful Divorce, is available on amazon.com and at her website, http://www.secretsofdivorce.com/home.

My criticism of the book is that it purports to be aimed at only helping women!